Is She Back?

I almost shed a tear when I saw this the other day; reminiscent of my childhood...hope she's here to stay!

Is It OK That She Can Do This?

i dunno...but i sure did almost fall out of my chair when i peeped this lil french girl killin this dancehall...

and from research into the actual video AND the tutorial, she's damn on point!!



would you challenge her?

As Much As He Annoys Me...

something just comes over me when I watch this lil boy kill this dance in his grandmama's basement...

I don't know what it is but...I can't stop watching this clip! As you all know, we're ina dancing craze phase, and we're shuckin n jivin all the way to the club with these ridiculous songs.

but as ridiculous as they are..."my dougie" will forever stay in my heart because of this clip! jam.

Check His FootWork.

Speak Yo Mind

The New Commitment?

(Miss Janet if ya Nasty, as the Virgin Janet)

Maybe it's just me, but I really thought that the days of tattin up ya current boo snatch's name anywhere on your body was over. Have we, as a people, not learned that most shit don't last? Most shit won't last? Most shit CAN'T last??? The state of Black relationships is already in a bad way, so I get it when we're extra hyped to be in a relationship and be in love, and feel something that appears to be longer lasting than a few hours, days, weeks, months, etc. But do we not learn from others who have made this mistake and now need to find various ways of coverup or removal? We all know at least ONE dude or woman who has a lover's name, nickname, streetname, or pet name somewhere on them.

(Dawn, on Que's yummy rightside waist)

And maybe I'm too jaded about relationships right now, but I just would not dare to get something permanent like a tat of said boo snatch's name on this beautiful brown skin. Does this make me pessimistic? Does this make my faith in my own ability to sustain relationships and be with men who can sustain a relationship shaky? I guess so, but you know what? I am completely fine with that. Even post-marriage, your name is not getting inked anywhere on this, I repeat, beautiful brown skin; I promise you. Now, I will admit, I was somewhat flattered when my ex mentioned getting my full name tatted on him. His hood booga way of showing me more love, of course. But, I also expressed to him time and time again, that it wasn't necessary, nor was it wanted/OK that he do this. Not because I didn't love him to pieces and want to be with him for "FO' EVA," but because I don't need all that, dear. You got me, and we know what it is (right now). The end. Did he do it anyway?

.......


Anyway.....this seems to be really what's hot, and not a fading trend. Are you guilty?

(Truly Blessed D. Gibson)

RIP Ed McMahon

In sad folks y'all, Ed McMahon died early this morning at the age of 86.


MSN story here

...56?

Teenager claims she only wanted three tattoos (on her face) ...and woke up at 5am with this:

56 stars, all over her damn face, to be exact. She said she went to sleep so she wouldn't feel the pain, and woke up while ol' boy was tattooing more shit on her nose. Tattoo artist claims that this is what she wanted, but blamed it on him when her dad and his friend saw the tats, and freaked. Artist said he doesn't use hypnosis or drugs during the process. He says ol' girl knew what was up? She's now charging him with assault and battery


My concern is: HOW DO YOU FALL ASLEEP WHILE GETTING A TATTOO, FOOL?!?!? Like, really? Are we supposed to believe that? And, on your FACE?!?!? Really? We are supposed to feel sympathy, for someone who claims to have sat through 56 tattoos ON HER FACE?!? No. I'm sorry. I ain't got it today, boo. Or tomorrow.



Who do hell do you believe?
full story


UPDATE: SHE LIED!!! (duh)

THIS SHIT HAS GOT TO STOP.

uhhh, no.

And LaLa, how you gon' weave up one half of your head? C'moooooooon people, why are we encouraging this? I guess it's the business.
courtesy of www.theybf.com

To Begin...From Here??

Long distance relationships man....never something I considered till I left the coast where my whole life was. Still not something I would ever go into whole heartedly thinking it would work, and that me and said ol' boy would be perfectly fine with it and be able to hang no problem.

Cuz unfortunately, I've developed trust issues this past year, and they ain't nothin but a bitch! Relationships are hard enough as it is in the same damn county, but would you start one with someone who was not near you?


Would you, could you, begin with absence?

Parental vs. Rude...When Does it Become NOT OK?

Now, my parents are Guyanese, and with all that West Indian history, comes a whole lotta nonsense that only few of my friends understand. There are a lot of behaviors that my parents have that I have learned to excuse 1) because I couldn't say shit, cuz....duh, they're my parents and 2) because I didn't realize that alot of parents are NOT like them. Of course, they share many characteristics of most parents, but there are these just...unexplainable traits of West Indian parents are are so rooted, I wouldn't even know where to begin to address some of them.

One thing that I've come to notice, and have heard from other friends with non-American parents, is the tyrant mindframe of our fathers. Again, this is something that I have just become very accustomed to, but it has begun to really boil my water and place a further gap between me and this man (my father). Granted, men in general, many cultures, are born and bred differently to be this all powerful, no nonsense, unquestionable forces that rule with an iron fist. But in the West Indian culture, what I notice also is such a lack of compromise, and lack of even trying to understand another point of view, ESPECIALLY if it's more "American/Yankee." But honestly, he is just so damn rude! No tact. Complete disregard for my feelings. Dismissive. Tyrannical. Critical.

I mean, love the man with my all, but sometimes...I just feel like he goes too far, and does this, because he knows he can, and has been allowed to do so by everyone in my family (my brother tries to go hard at him sometimes, tho, guess it's a guy thing). Things as personal as romantic relationships (he's only been privy to one, my most recent, which he was not a fan of, and had no problem informing me of this), he felt/feels the need to make inappropriate jokes and say hurtful things. Is this to gauge my true feelings? Is this to drive whatever point he has, home? Is this just for me to react?

And how bad is it that I've learned to just ignore him? In one, out the other. (or so it seems) That can't be healthy right? With family? The ease with which I brush his hurtful words off my shoulder? No, not healthy, but damn sure protective.


Do you have those people in your life who get under your skin, but for whatever reason, you never address it?
Just a thought.

Yeah, I Brought It Back.

Doogie Howser - Theme Song

He's Back.

and he's saving my psyche as I part ways with the 08'09 "in a relationship" AY. I listen to it as if my ex is saying/singing this to me (which he has), letting me do what I need to do. Just perfect.





Maxwell is coming to shake the neo-soul world again like he did 7 years ago. July 7th, 2009, the first installment of his 3-part album, BlacksSummersNight, drops in stores.



And I will be there to catch it!

I'm So Glad He Learned...

that braids are out for the grown Black man. Get it, boo!

so whether he learned on his own, or someone told him, it was a MUST to cut that hair! These other men learned their lessons, as well, also. And I'm sure their fan base grew with the new do's! Your hair is your crown....




don't y'all just FEEL more mature? Fresh? Clean? Freeeeeeeeee????

What are your thoughts on men in braids? Not locs, not dreads, but BRAIDS??

Just Cuz I Like It When He Says...

Mami el negro está rabioso

El quiere tu azúcar, y tu no se lo das
Esa morena está sabrosa
Y cuando tú la tocas, ella se vuelve loca


Don't know what the hell those words mean, but I do know how Pitbull makes me feel on the deep down inside when he says it...yum!

Gravely Inappropriate.

Does anyone else think that this is a little too much? love sex magic by Ciara, ft. Justin Timberlake. I've been hearing about the "graphic-ness" of this video for a while now, but never had a chance to catch it anywhere until a few days ago. And I was really shocked and borderline offended. Ciara, boo, stop. You don't need to do all that.

Or maybe you do? Sex sells, I guess. And you're voice surely isn't gonna help you in this recession. So, am I just being a hater then? I know Justin's also an actor, and has a significant other, so this may not be a big deal in that respect. I'd still be a lil tight though if I was Ms. Biel.



Just sayin'...

Step-Mom?

This was a draft post that I meant to complete when I had a significant other. Well, scratch that. I still have have a significant other; we are just no longer in a "relationship," for all intensive purposes of how folks choose to use that word. However, the title of this post no longer applies to my current sitcha-ation. However I'll speak on it anyway as a brief learning lesson for me, and something that many men and women need to think about these days when dating.

At one point in my life, a very short time ago, I considered being a mother. Fortunately for me, this motherhood did not involve a stretched out belly, morning sickness or cravings. This motherhood would have been a secondary bond, between myself and my boyfriend's children, if we were to get serious enough for me to be a regular part of their lives. But many factors were obstacles.

1. I'm not ready to be no one's mother. I'm not ready financially, emotionally, physically or mentally. Not that I can't be a role model, but, a mother? That's alot on the plate.

2. I don't have the time to be no one's mother. Granted, many women who become mothers have had to make the time for motherhood due to circumstances. But, seeing as how this is not something I have to do because of my physically growing girth, nah. My time is devoted to school and procrastination. And even being with his children for a short time did take away from things that I needed to be doing. However, I put in the effort, and I do not regret testing the waters, even if only for a few hours at a time.

3. I can't be no one's mother, if you NEED me to be a stepmom. Much different if you are a parent who is dating around, and you happen to fall in love with someone and you get serious enough to consider the role, and its discussed amongst you two, etc. You are able to handle your own as a single parent, or in a successful co-parenting relationship. HOWEVA, if you are dating, in order, however subconsciously, to find this step parent that you so need to help you in the role of parenting? There is going to be a problem. Even if I was in the position to be a step-parent, let's think about the pressure now placed on the relationship when I start dating you AND your children immediately.

Now, once upon a time, this was a rare issue that people who were dating had to deal with. Or, this was something that older couples had to deal with, after years of being with a partner, or being married, with a later divorce, and dating/remarriage. Bring in the Brady Bunch. But nowadays, people are having children much younger, and having MORE children, and unfortunately, more than likely out of wedlock. Or about to be in wedlock because of said pregnancy, or wedlock that isn't lasting long.

So step-parenting is definitely a new wave in the future in the lives of young couples. Actually, it's already here. It's easy to say "I won't date anyone with children," and it's also very understandable, as a means of cutting out the high potential for drama, and added stress of children in the mix of getting to know someone more intimately.

But...how reasonable is this is today's society to avoid even feeling someone, who has a child? Is it fair? To you, to block out a growing number of potential lovers and relationships? How fair is this, to those who have children and are single, that they may be classified as "undateable?" I've learned that I once thought was a preference, and circumstances that were must haves in relatinoships for me, really are not. My ex was the epitome of everything I said I did NOT want in a man (including having children), except for the love, adoration, mutual bond, ability to connect, sex life, humor, and level of comfort, etc. that he also came with. So can I say I wouldn't date someone who has children, after these most recent experiences and complications due to such?

Nope. I would do it again in a heartbeat. For me, it's not about the children; it's not about the children's mother(s). It's about how you handle the children, and their mother(s), in relation to your current relationship. So, yes, I'd do it again. I'd just do it differently.

A Beautiful Art

Beautiful talent. Remarkable discipline. I'm in awe. And this is that like...forgotten awe. I came across the performance again, while watching this season of So You Think You Can Dance. Say what you want about reality shows; some performers are meant to be there, and meant to be seen. And I'm not a dancer, but this performance touches my soul!


Heidi & Travis - Contemporary Dance

Spectacular?

India Wil Tell You, Cuz I'm Tired...

People always ask, "Are you OK?" "How are you doing?" "How are you holding up?"
Or people always say, "You just need to distract yourself." "You'll be OK." "Hey, look at it this way...."

Do you really want to know? Are you tried and truly concerned with the thoughts that run through my head on a regular basis when it comes to emotional pain? You don't believe me when I tell you the truth. You don't want to believe me. Because my truth hurts. It hurts me, so it hurts you. So it's the truth. You're not willing to accept that someone can be OK with pain, with heartache. But I am. So...let me accept it.

I'm typically not good with words unless I'm providing assistance to someone else...(hence the profession; wounded healer I am!) so I'ma let India fill you in...

Good morning silence
Good morning to myself

Good morning to the pain in the center of my chest

It's crazy how much I miss
a simple good morning kiss
oh ohhhhh...

Good morning independence or is it loneliness?
I know I said I wanted this but I have regrets

I pray for God's will to be done
The very next day you were gone
Oh Ohhhhhh

Good morning to the harsh realities of life
and good morning to the fact we're not husband and wife

We made a promise to stay
But destiny got in the way
oh ohhhhhhhh

Good morning...

Good morning acceptance
Good morning inner strength
I'm loving every moment
even the strain

It's crazy how much I miss
a simple good morning kiss
It's crazy how much I've missed
Now it's time for me to live
oh ohhhhhhhhhh

Good morning...

Good morning optimism
Good morning to my faith
Good morning to the beginning of a brand new day

I know that God's will be done
So I lay down my pain and I'm moving on

I know that God's will be done.
So it's a good morning after all

What Have I Been Up To...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y3pC0hRyBK4


Too bad I couldn't embed this...YouTube is getting slick ad disabling the feature!


Chrisette said it. And she said it at the right time...in the right way....

Natasha Jane Richardson, R.I.P.

I only know her from The Parent Trap (1998) with the then sweet Lindsay Lohan. She was an English actress, daughter of Vanessa Redgrave and Tony Richardson. Sister to Joely Richardson. She came from a long line of famous English actors and actresses, and held her own on various stages.

At the time of her death, she was married to Liam Neeson, with whom she had two young boys. She has been a longtime support of AIDS causes, as her father died from AIDS-related causes in 1991.

Her death highlights the seriousness of closed head injury and traumatic brain injuries (TBI) in general, and how followup medical is ALWAYS necessary after and head collision. However minor it seems, even if there is no blood and no immediate sign of distress, PLEASE do not overlook how deadly this is. Brain injury is very high on the list of the cause of death of very young children (if not on the top of the list, actually) and if death is not the result, serious neurological damage can result days, weeks, months, and years later.

Caution first--->CNN expert report on traumatic brain injuries

Oh, and In Case You DIDN'T Know...

I

BLEED

SYRACUSE ORANGE.

Sweet 16 game tonight against Oklahoma, 7:27pm Eastern Standard Time. CBS.
Be there.

13 year old Alfie is NOT the father of this baby. I know y'all heard the story. I repeat, he is NOT the father, of his 15 year old girlfriend, Chantelle's, baby. My issue does lie in the fact that these young ass kids or having unprotected sex (well, not that I don't have an issue with it; I'm just not surprised) Anyway...my issue is that these MINORS are plastered ALL OVER THE INTERNET, in publicity ploys all over the damn world.

I guess the shock to the world is that a 13 year old had supposedly fathered the child as opposed to an older teenager or legal adult, which is typically the case. Why are their parents OK with this? Why is he everywhere, and she is not? (Not that I want her plastered places, as well but...c'mon) This is not cute; it's sad and these childrens' parents should be embarrassed.

And I'm pissed.